Making Connections: Become a Better People Person

“The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee. And I will pay more for that ability than any other under the sun.” -John D. Rockefeller

Do you consider yourself a “people person”? If you don’t, you are leaving a lot on the table.

Friendships, job opportunities, better family relations, promotions, happiness, and many other desired characteristics can be traced back to being a “people person”.

The great thing is that this a skill and not a natural born talent. You can learn how to empathize, relate, communicate, handle and deal with people of all types. Learning to do so will have a profound impact on your life and career. The more you become a people person, the happier and more successful you will become.

Below are a few quick and easy changes you can make to win more friends, create relationships and make better connections.

If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours. You will never know what kind of an impact you’ll make if you lead a positive, upbeat life and smile all the time. A smile makes you more approachable and attractive. Now who wouldn’t want that?

Be a good listener
Let other people talk, while you attentively listen. Don’t be thinking about what you are going to say next while the other person is talking. Lean in, make eye contact and be engaged. Most people don’t want you to solve their problems, the usually just need a good listener. The better listener you are the better conversationalist you will become.

Be interested in the other person’s interests.
If you go out looking for friends, you’ll find them hard to find. However if you go out looking to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere. Become a friend first and you will build quality relationships. You can connect with everyone on a certain level or topic. It might take some time, but if you really want to befriend someone, it will be worth it.

Give sincere compliments
Everyone loves receiving a compliment. However it needs to be genuine and sincere. The good thing is that you can find something to compliment about everyone. You can make someone’s day by simply telling them that they have a great smile, or you like their new haircut or let them know that they are great at their job. Don’t worry about sounding silly or coming off creepy. As long as you are sincere, the compliment will come off fine.

Use these four simple steps to become a better people person and you will instantly start making better connections.

When it comes down to it, in your work and career, everyone is really self-employed. We hold our destiny and fate in our hands with our productivity, energy, passion and attitude. Use these four characteristics to stand out and work. Sooner or later, you will be rewarded for it.

Don’t “follow your dreams”…

It’s a tough thing to hear, but following your dreams is most likely not an option for you.

Growing up, I was obsessed with basketball. I loved watching Michael Jordan dominate the NBA in the 90’s. I practiced and played as much as I could. I played basketball in junior high and high school, but I was just mediocre. Even though it was my dream to play in the NBA, I had to give it up. Why? Because we live in the real world.

In the real world, you have bills to pay and families who count on you. We have responsibilities that require us to grow up and become a contributing member of society. Hanging on to a dream can hold you back.

Instead of holding on to an unrealistic dream, find out what you are good at and bring that passion with you. Use that same energy, motivation and drive to stand out in the workplace.

This world needs motivated people. You will excel at business and in life if you bring passion and energy to work with you on a daily basis. That is the definition of leading by example. Your opportunities will be limitless.

Capture the energy from your “dreams” and use that same passion to make a difference in the marketplace.

Seeing the brighter side

Life is short.

Life is too short to hold grudges. Life is too short to be pessimistic. Life is too short to be unhappy. Life is too short to settle for mediocre when you can be excellent.

Turn a negative into a positive. Turn an obstacle into an achievement. When you look on the brighter side of life, you will enjoy it more.

Life is hard. But it is astronomically more difficult when you have a negative attitude. So don’t handicap yourself from the beginning. Give yourself the best chance possible and see the brighter side of life!

Back to Basics: Encourage Your Team

Many of us get wrapped up in our own day to day challenges, that we sometimes fail to deliver where we are needed most as a leader. We fail to encourage our team members.

Your team members need you to be their biggest fans; their biggest cheerleaders.

Simply providing them a place of employment is no longer acceptable in the marketplace. The idea that your team members should be happy because they have a job is ancient thinking. You will never get someone’s best effort without encouraging them along the way.

You won’t believe how far a handshake, high five or a “Thank you for your great work!” will go. Your team members are like your children and are craving your approval. When you do this, you can possibly make their day, week or even month. Don’t you owe that to them?

I challenge you to catch your team members doing something right over the next week. Be honest and sincere when you talk to them and don’t forget to smile. If you have the opportunity, praise them in front of other team members or their family members.

If you praise them for a job well done in front of their colleagues, they will see that and pick up their performance because they want to be praised like that next time.

If you have the ability to praise them in front of their spouse, children, or parents, please take the time to do so. Our team members give us 40+ hours of work a week. If their family members hear that they are appreciated and respected at work, it makes the time away from home that much easier to bear.

If you take this challenge to heart, you will create a better work environment, more loyalty and a better culture. Who wouldn’t want that?

Thank you very much for reading. Like always please share your thoughts and ideas! What have you done to encourage your team members? Everyone is different so I would love to hear what you do! Thank you!

Servant Leadership

It’s easier to get outside yourself, when you’re thinking about someone else.

The greatest way to get ahead, is to serve others. This is the essence of servant leadership. As a leader, when you help others accomplish their tasks, you lift them up and make them better. That is the leader’s sole purpose.

When you make everyone around you better and you will better yourself along the way.

Praise your team!

Catch your team doing something RIGHT and praise them! Make it a habit and the productivity of your team will increase!

Everyone loves to be honestly praised for the work they do. Be genuine and sincere in your appreciation and your team members will enjoy your blessings.

Execute with Excellence

Stand Out Leaders execute with excellence on a daily basis.

From the time you wake up, until the time you go to sleep, do the little things right. The world needs people who are accountable and have integrity. When you hold yourself to these high standards, everyone will take notice.

It is important to execute with excellence off the job as well. As Zig Ziglar says, “What you do off the job, determines how far you go on the job”. These traits are transferable to your everyday life.

Take pride in your integrity. Take pride in your discipline.

When you execute with excellence on a daily basis, you will be able to do anything that you set your mind to. It’ll just be a matter of time!

Today’s Leadership Thought: Discipline!

“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” – Jim Rohn

You can do anything you want to do and be anything you want to be! It’s just a matter of how bad do you want it?